Archive for March, 2010

The Bear and The White Stripes

I just want to proudly declare that in this month, this blog is only updated sporadically. Yay to the White Rabbit! \m/

Well, see you in April, my dearest leader readers! Happy end of March! 😀

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Ebiet G Ade – Nyanyian Rindu

I just feel like sharing this song tonight.™

Saya pertama kali mendengarkan lagu ini, ya, tentu, waktu saya masih kecil. Ebiet G Ade adalah salah satu musisi yang digemari ibu saya, di luar Broery Marantika dan Bimbo, jadi beliau sering menyetel lagu-lagu Ebiet. Namun demikian, klip lagu ini baru saya ketahui pada pertengahan dekade 2000an. Mungkin sekitar 2005 kali ya. Pikir saya kala itu, astaga, klip apaan ini? Cheesy! Kaya sinetron! Bayangkan, cewek cantik halus mulus dan seorang pria yang…halah, lupakan, berboncengan naik sepeda dan seterusnya. Tidak layak bagi seorang musisi legendaris macam Ebiet G Ade!

Rupanya, ada klip lain untuk lagu yang sama, yang belum lama ini saya temukan.

…dan lebih menohok. 😐

Anak gadis model video klip ini…senyumannya…maut…epik, dan sungguh berkesan…kalau saya ada di posisi anak laki-laki yang berlarian mengejarnya, barangkali saya akan jatuh ke dalam jurang melankolia berhari-hari lamanya…

Dan ya, seperti kata Tuan Alex di komentarnya di thread Facebook saya, gambaran pria pengangguran yang termenung meratapi langit-langit pada transisi era 80 dan 90an, ketika handphone belum sampai ke level akar rumput masyarakat Indonesia, serta sepasang anak kecil dengan dandanan laiknya anak-anak pada dasawarsa 1980an, tentunya membuat saya, yang menggemari hal-hal retro ini, memberi nilai plus kepada video klip tersebut. 😀



PS: picture is taken from the Youtube video.

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My View on Love

Firstly, let’s narrow down the scope of love we’re talking about to a traditionally romantic relationship between two loving persons, merely for the sake of simplicity.

Now, what is true love, and what is soul-mate? Some people say, when you meet someone to whom out of nothing your platonic affection impulsively grows up to an irrational level, such that you will hurt more if s/he is hurt, and such that you can accept the her/his imperfection, and such that it will be never ending, s/he is your soul-mate, and and this feeling is called true love. But do they really exist?

Let me talk about soul-mate. My skeptical view on it is that it doesn’t exist. Why? Because what we basically do is just to find the locally (i.e., among the people that we have the chance to meet in our life) and subjectively (i.e. depending on our characteristics) best person to almost perfectly mate with. Well, when you find this person, you can define her/him as “soul-mate” if you’d like, though I’d rather not, since such term needs a great deal of pre-determined divine intervention, and I personally believe in a mix of determinism and free-will. Another thing is that, depending on your life decision, e.g. whether you want to stay at your hometown or relocate to another city or even country, you may end up with different persons. Wait, non-unique soul-mate?

Next, true love. When you are trying to achieve an everlasting relationship with another person, you need to work it out. Mating is a thorough process. Whereas, I regard true love is a rather instantaneous process, and this contradicts with the fact I previously mentioned. And the process, my brothers and sisters, is trial-and-error in nature. There are those lucky bastards who only need one of such attempts, but many of us require more than one trials in order to find this person, since emotions can change over time and relationships may fail. And of course, the process involves finding wrong persons, heart-breaking drama, divorces, asymmetric passions, and so on, such that some people go crazy and decide to jump off the topmost level of a skyscraper. With these premises, in my opinion, that concept doesn’t exist in reality.

True love and soul-mate are just matters of perception. Mathematically speaking, it is a function of, at least, your characteristics, her/his characteristics, the current state of relationship, your current emotion and her/his current emotion. When love blooms, your partner is the most beautiful person in the world. When hatred grows, even single word from her will sound like a scratched zinc. Illusion.

As such, I also additionally despise the concept of love at the first sight, which I used to adore. There is no such thing as it, but I’d rather believe in the existence of lust at the first sight. O boy, when you meet a hot chick and your heart suddenly beats, like, faster, that is lust at the first sight, but please take a note that when you meet a beautiful and gorgeous girl and your body still responds in the same way, that is also a lust at the first sight. You only like her physical appearance, which is just a tiny aspect of her. Do I make myself clear enough?

For the so-called love to exist, you really need to know the backgrounds and the characteristics of your partner. That’s why, I adopt this Javanese view of love, “witing tresna jalaran saka kulina”. I perceive it such that love will grow as you are familiarising yourself to the person whom you think is the locally best person. It is to be noted though that the converse thereof doesn’t apply, i.e. when you are working on your relationship with this person, there is no guarantee that at the end of the day love or “tresna” will be blooming. Until that glorious day comes, all the persons who make the attempt will just be another persons to the partner.

To conclude, there is no magic in love. There is nothing really mystical in it, other than the evolution of emotion, that you can fancifully celebrate. Just try your best in finding the most suitable person in your neighbourhood, and that’s it. You may end up marrying different person, depending on the path you choose, and when you can finally get her/him, just maintain the relationship at your best work-rate. All basically only needs one thing: effort.


PS: I would like to deliver my appreciation towards ManusiaSuper, Grace and Takodok for their insightul responses on Facebook, which I include here in my post. Thanks for your comments. 🙂

PPS: I don’t claim my opinion to be the universal truth. Everything is relative, every head has different ideas, and I still think there are holes in my stance.

PPPS: To you. Yes, you. Well, we have ever had a discussion about this, so basically I’m just writing my stance down here on my blog, so as to gain wider attention. 🙂

And this is not menye, OK [-(

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