A few things to mention.
- In a courtship, you at maximum only give 25% of your life. In engagement you give 50% and in marriage you give 75% (or 100%? I can’t remember).
- Courtship is just a process of mating, to find a suitable person to be your intimate friend for eternity, so don’t sacrifice too much if you don’t feel comfortable with your current partner.
- Due to #2, while in a courtship, feel free to take a look at other possibilities.
- Courtship is nothing.
- Again, courtship is nothing.
These are a few things that my parents told me about courtship (Indonesian: pacaran). I think I can agree to most of those statements. However, I still have some concerns. I value loyalty. Therefore, I can’t do #3 unless the mating process seems to be doomed due to huge differences. Well, I can’t lie that if I see someone (even) in a (mere) courtship relationship committing affair, I will be angered, even though I am not directly involved. I also will not intervene other’s relationships, because I don’t want my relationship, if any, to be intervened by a third person too. This is a silver rule common in many big religions.
Now that I can agree to 4 out of those 5 points, does it mean that I subject courtship? No. It is necessary to have a courtship to know your partner’s characteristics. But again, things might not be that serious at this level. That’s why I recently started to look down upon Takaki and Tom. Fool are you Takaki, for being too melodramatic, for being a drama king. Fool are you Tom, for letting yourself slip into the hole you created yourself. She left you, you should have left her immediately!
From a void, I made a left turn, reached a steady state value, then in an overshoot, I seem to be turning right.